May 1, 2024

Anger with God

anger with godThis week I met with a mother who lost twins in an early birth.  She wanted to meet to talk about her anger with God.  She wanted to try to get pregnant again but wasn’t sure she could trust God with another pregnancy and birth.  She wanted to be able to have a relationship with God going into the future, but wasn’t sure how to do so.  She wanted help for how to move forward.

I reminded her that Jesus was God’s son, and when he was unjustly executed on a cross God knew what it meant to lose a child.  I told her that I don’t believe everything happens for a reason (see my sermon following the Sandy Hook shooting for more thoughts on why everything doesn’t happen for a reason).  I believe that God gives both humans and creation a measure of freedom.  This means that sometimes humans and creation are just plain broken, and stuff happens.  I also don’t believe God is the deist watch-maker who creates the watch, winds it up, steps back and lets it run.  God does intervene in history.

The question becomes, “Why did God not intervene when I needed God most?”  I don’t have an answer to that question, and I don’t believe we will have specific answers this side of heaven, but being a relatively new parent myself, I have gained a sense of how God might work.  Sometimes I intervene in my sons’ lives and other times I allow them to struggle with whatever situation they find themselves in.  I am an imperfect parent, and I make mistakes, but even as an imperfect parent I know that if I don’t allow some hardship in my sons’ lives, they won’t grow up to become mature healthy men.

By the end of our conversation, this mom asked me to provide a list of suggested resources that we had talked about. Here is that list and why I recommended them.

The Psalms

The Psalms are the prayer book of the Bible.  They are honest, gritty, raw, and sometimes quite shocking.  The Hebrew word for The Psalms is Te’hillim which means “praises.”  The odd thing about calling The Psalms a book of praises is that there are more laments in it than there are praises.  The ancient Hebrews apparently had a different way of conceptualizing what it means to praise God.  Over and over again the Psalms wrestle with God by asking God question after question.  Some helpful Psalms for a situation like this might include:

Psalm 6 – I drench my couch with tears.

Psalm 13 – How long, Lord?  How long?

Psalm 22 – My God, My God, Why have you abandoned me? (This is the Psalm that Jesus prayed while being executed on the cross)

Almost every psalm of lament eventually turns to praise.  But there are two psalms that do not make that turn.  Perhaps this suggests that there are times when it is appropriate to not turn your prayer of lament and questioning back to praise.  Those psalms are:

Psalm 39 – My anguish increased…

Psalm 88 – Darkness is my closest friend.

Along these lines, a sermon that might be helpful is Prayers that Stick – CRAP!

Two books that could be helpful for engaging the Psalms at a deeper level are Ellen Davis’ Getting Involved with God and Philip Yancey’s The Bible Jesus Read.  A helpful version of the Psalms for children is Psalms for Young Children by Marie-Helene Delval.

Prayer Journal

Most people pray in their heads and find themselves struggling with wandering thoughts and forgetful memories.  A prayer journal can act as a reminder of where you’ve been and where you’ve come.  The Bible tells stories of people regularly setting up pillars or altars or piles of rocks (called an “ebenezer”) to remind them of what God has done in their lives.  A prayer journal can be a reminder of God’s slow and sometimes imperceptible movement in one’s life.

Use the prayer journal to write letters to God.  These don’t have to be flowery theological language.  Use simple language.  Consider patterning what you write after The Lord’s Prayer:

Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name
(Address God as a loving parent who is intimately interested in you) 

Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven
(Ask God to accomplish God’s purposes in your life)

Give us today our daily bread
(Tell God what you need)

And forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us
(Tell God where you’ve messed up)

Lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil
(Ask God to help you do what’s right today even when you’re tempted to do evil)

A helpful sermon about Jesus’ prayer life might be: Dancing with God – Only One Lead.

Books

There are several books that could be helpful for someone struggling with intense grief or suffering.  The first is C.S. Lewis’ A Grief Observed.  C.S. Lewis, the author of The Chronicles of Narnia, was a giant of the faith in his day, and when he lost his beloved wife to cancer, he penned this book anonymously.  It describes his struggle with God in a very forthright way.  Eventually he claimed the book as his own.

Another more recent book that my wife recommends is One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp.  At a very young age, Voskamp’s sister was crushed under a delivery truck at their house.  This book is her struggle with God following that event.

A third book that many have found helpful who have experienced some kind of significant trauma or suffering is The Shack by William Paul Young (My review can be found here).  This is a novel about a father whose child is abducted and who spends a period of time with a creatively imagined Trinitarian God (“The Father” is a black woman) in a shack in the mountains.

Sermon Series

I try to preach an entire series on the question of suffering every other year.  Most recently I adapted Craig Groeschel’s series Why? for SCC.  This series included the following sermons:

Why do bad things happen to good people?
Why doesn’t God answer my prayers?
Why don’t I always feel God?

A favorite series of mine on the topic of suffering is Adam Hamilton’s Why?  Hamilton is the pastor of the largest UnitedMethodistChurch in America.  His preaching style is not flashy, but it is clear, straightforward, and honest.

Final Thoughts

Losing a child or loved one is quite possibly one of the hardest things any of us will ever experience.  I think it is important to recognize that asking questions of God or even being angry with God is in itself an act of faith.  The opposite of love is not anger but indifference.  By asking God questions and expressing anger, we are implying that there is a God worth asking questions of or getting angry with.  Don’t be afraid to wrestle with God.  Israel is the name given Jacob after he wrestled with God.  It means, One-Who-Wrestles-With-God.  God’s people are literally named God-Wrestlers!  Perhaps it is appropriate to end with a Psalm of wrestling.

I say to God my Rock,
“Why have you forgotten me?
Why must I go about mourning,
oppressed by the enemy?”

My bones suffer mortal agony
as my foes taunt me,
saying to me all day long,
“Where is your God?”

Why, my soul, are you downcast?
Why so disturbed within me?
Put your hope in God,
for I will yet praise him,
my Savior and my God.

Psalm 42:9-11

Carols – Away in a Manger / Sandy Hook

 

 

 

 

Carols – Away in a Manger
Sycamore Creek Church
December 16 & 17, 2012
Tom Arthur

My tears have been my food day and night, while people say to me continually, “Where is your God?”
Psalm 42:3 NRSV

Today we mourn.  Today we cry.  Today our hearts our broken.  And how can we continue this Christmas celebration after the horrific tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary in Newtown, Connecticut?  We’re in the middle of a Christmas series called Carols.  We’re supposed to be looking at a new carol each week and unpacking it and exploring it.  Today we were supposed to look at the carol, Away in a Manger.   I had a great sermon lined up to ask the question: is the “little Lord Jesus” Lord of a little of your life or all of your life?  But somehow that just didn’t work anymore, so I had to throw that sermon out and start again.

I must admit, even the carol, Away in a Manger, felt like a bunch of sentimental B.S. as I began reworking this sermon.  But as I collected my thoughts for what new thing God was calling me to say, I felt that the carol still had something to say to us today, or at least provided a framework for a word that God might be speaking to us today.  So to refresh your memory, here’s a music video for the song:

 

Away in Enemy Occupied Territory
Away in a manger,
No crib for His bed,
The little Lord Jesus
Laid down His sweet head;
The stars in the heavens
Looked down where He lay,
The little Lord Jesus
Asleep on the hay.

This is a quaint image of the “little Lord Jesus” in a cute little hay filled manger.  But the spiritual reality of what’s going on here is something much deeper.  Have you ever read the Christmas story in the book of Revelation?  You get a much different picture of what’s going on.

Revelation 12:1-9 NRSV
A great portent appeared in heaven: a woman clothed with the sun, with the moon under her feet, and on her head a crown of twelve stars.  She was pregnant and was crying out in birth pangs, in the agony of giving birth.  Then another portent appeared in heaven: a great red dragon, with seven heads and ten horns, and seven diadems on his heads.  His tail swept down a third of the stars of heaven and threw them to the earth. Then the dragon stood before the woman who was about to bear a child, so that he might devour her child as soon as it was born.  And she gave birth to a son, a male child, who is to rule all the nations with a rod of iron. But her child was snatched away and taken to God and to his throne; and the woman fled into the wilderness, where she has a place prepared by God, so that there she can be nourished for one thousand two hundred sixty days.  And war broke out in heaven; Michael and his angels fought against the dragon. The dragon and his angels fought back, but they were defeated, and there was no longer any place for them in heaven. The great dragon was thrown down, that ancient serpent, who is called the Devil and Satan, the deceiver of the whole world — he was thrown down to the earth, and his angels were thrown down with him.  

The “little Lord Jesus” is born at ground zero of a spiritual war going on in heaven.  There are two forces at work in the world, the forces of light (heaven) and the forces of darkness (hell).  It isn’t always a clean cut issue of who is on what side, because each one of us is a mixture of light and dark, heaven and hell.  If you look within yourself and are honest with yourself, you’ll see some good stuff and some ugly stuff.  But in Jesus Christ, there is no darkness, only light.

1 John 1:5 NRSV
This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light and in him there is no darkness at all.

So the first thing we need to recognize about our world when we encounter tragedies like the one that took place at Sandy Hook is that it is taking place amidst enemy occupied territory.

Away in a Manger: Jesus Does Cry
The cattle are lowing,
The poor Baby wakes,
But little Lord Jesus,
No crying He makes.
I love Thee, Lord Jesus;
Look down from the sky
And stay by my cradle
Till morning is nigh.

This is one verse that needs some work.  It needs some work because it implies some kind of not-human baby.  We need to separate fact from fiction in this carol.  There is no mention of animals in the Christmas story.  And there is no mention of Jesus’ crying status.  But somehow we have got it in our collective imagination, probably due to this song, that Jesus doesn’t cry, and if Jesus doesn’t cry as a baby, then Jesus probably doesn’t cry as an adult.  Not true.

When Jesus showed up four days after his friend, Lazarus, had died, Jesus wept (John 11:35).  It’s an odd place for Jesus to cry because it’s just before Jesus raises him from the dead!  But Jesus gets caught up in the emotion of the situation.  He feels the pain of those around him.  He suffers with them.  Jesus knows what its like to have a loved one die, and Jesus wept.

Jesus also knows what it’s like to suffer.  He was executed in a very painful way: crucifixion.  Crucifixion kills you not from bleeding, but because over time you get too  tired to pull yourself up to take a breath, and you suffocate.  Jesus was born in enemy occupied territory so as to lead a rescue mission to save all who would follow him by giving us the ability to follow his teachings on how to love God and others in a right way.  But the world encountered this perfect love and executed him.  Jesus didn’t want to die this way. He even asked his heavenly Father to do something else, but submitted to whatever happened.

And while Jesus hung on the cross he felt abandoned by God.  He cried out the first line of Psalm 22, My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?  In the face of his own suffering, Jesus asked God Why?  If Jesus asked God Why? then surely it’s OK for us too to ask God Why?  And let us remember too that in the midst of Jesus’ death on the cross, the Heavenly Father knows what it is like to lose a child.  The Father and the Son are not removed from our suffering but know intimately what it is like.

Sometimes It Gets Worse
Be near me, Lord Jesus;
I ask Thee to stay
Close by me forever
And love me I pray!
Bless all the dear children
In Thy tender care,
And fit us for Heaven
To live with Thee there.

When I heard about the shooting at Sandy Hook, the first scripture that came to mind was the massacre of the innocents.  Here’s the story:

Matthew 2:13-18 NRSV
Now after [the wise men] had left, an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream and said, “Get up, take the child and his mother, and flee to Egypt, and remain there until I tell you; for Herod is about to search for the child, to destroy him.”  Then Josephgot up, took the child and his mother by night, and went to Egypt, and remained there until the death of Herod. This was to fulfill what had been spoken by the Lord through the prophet, “Out of Egypt I have called my son.” When Herod saw that he had been tricked by the wise men,he was infuriated, and he sent and killed all the children in and around Bethlehem who were two years old or under, according to the time that he had learned from the wise men.  Then was fulfilled what had been spoken through the prophet Jeremiah: “A voice was heard in Ramah, wailing and loud lamentation, Rachel weeping for her children; she refused to be consoled, because they are no more.”

When Jesus comes into the world and enters enemy occupied territory, sometimes it has to get worse before it gets better.  The forces of darkness don’t just lie down and play dead.  They punch back with everything they’ve got.  In fact, sometimes Jesus’ very presence, the presence of light amidst the darkness, is the very thing that causes it to get worse before it gets better.

In the face of things getting worse, sometimes we Christians say some things that I don’t think are very helpful.  One thing I think we often say to comfort one another in times of tragedy is that everything happens for a reason.  Is this really true?  This idea implies that God orchestrated these things to happen so that God could accomplish something.  It’s as though God set up the domino pieces of tragedy so that they would fall into suffering in just the right way.  According to this view, God caused these shootings to happen so that God could get something else to work the way God wanted it to work.

But does everything happen for a reason?  Did God cause this to happen for a reason?

Was this the will of God?

Closely related to these questions are some other questions: How can you believe in God in the face of something like this?  If God is good and all-powerful, how does God allow something like this to happen?

There are no easy answers to these questions but let me offer some ideas that point us toward answers.

First, the Bible isn’t Pollyanna.  Everyone in the Bible doesn’t get what they want and live a perfect and charmed life.  The Bible is full of stories of people hanging on to faith amidst great and terrible suffering.  So don’t think for a second that what the Bible is about is getting rid of all the suffering in your life.  My own experience is that often times following Jesus in a broken world causes me more suffering.

Second, Jesus is the “little Lord Jesus” because he does not force or coerce himself on us.  God allows freedom in the creation, but the natural world of “mother nature” and the human world of each one of our hearts.  God gives each one of us the wonderful and terrible gift of the freedom to choose or reject God and God’s ways.  This is not to say that God is disinterested in our lives or that God is a God who simply created the clock, wound it up, and lets it run.  But rather, most of the time God allows us all to live with the natural consequences of our behavior and the natural consequences of others’  behaviors.  And in that freedom, we people who are all a mixture of heaven and hell, do some bad things.  Some of those bad things are small, and some of those bad things are tremendous.

Third, God can and often does take something bad and turn it, twist it, conform it, even push it into something good. St. Paul tells us that “We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28 NRSV).  Let me make sure you understand the distinction between what Paul is saying and the idea that everything happens for a reason.  “Everything happens for a reason” means that God made it happen.  What Paul is saying is that once something happens, God can use it to God’s purposes and God’s ends.  These are two very different ideas.  Do not confuse them.  Paul is not saying that everything happens for a purpose of God.  Paul is saying that everything that happens can be used for God’s purposes.

Lament is OK
Away in a manger,
No crib for His bed,
The little Lord Jesus
Laid down His sweet head;
The stars in the heavens
Looked down where He lay,
The little Lord Jesus
Asleep on the hay.

It’s Christmas time and we want to celebrate.  But this tragedy won’t let us celebrate.  And it is OK to lament.  It’s OK to lament because the Bible is full of laments.  The prayer book of the Bible, the Psalms, have more laments in them than any other kind of prayer including praises.  The book of Job, one of the longest books in the Old Testament, is basically one big lament.  Then there’s even a book of the Bible called Lamentations, written after the city of Jerusalem was sacked and many were taken off into exile in Babylon.

We are living in a world that is both already and not yet.  Jesus already entered into enemy occupied territory to initiate the great rescue mission, but the mission is not yet complete.  In the midst of it being not yet complete, it is OK to lament.  So I would like to end this message on a lament.

Lamentations 2:18-19 NAB
Cry out to the Lord;
Moan, Daughter Zion!
Let your tears flow like a torrent
day and night;
Let there be no respite for you,
no repose for your eyes.
Rise up, shrill in the night,
at the beginning of every watch;
Pour out your heart like water
in the presence of the Lord
Lift up your hands to God
for the lives of your little ones.

Lord, have mercy.

Lament amidst Christmas – The Sandy Hook Shooting

Newtown UMC

A woman holds a child as people line up to enter the Newtown United Methodist Church near the scene of an elementary school shooting on Dec. 14 in Newtown, Conn. According to reports, there are at least 27 dead after a gunman opened fire in at the Sandy Hook Elementary School. The shooter was also killed. A web-only photo by Douglas Healey/Getty Images.

Dearest Friends,

In the wake of the horrific shooting yesterday at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut, it seems we are living afresh into the dark side of the Christmas story, the massacre of innocents (Matthew 2:13-23) by King Herod:

A voice was heard in Ramah, wailing and loud lamentation, Rachel weeping for her children; she refused to be consoled, because they are no more.
Matthew 2:18

Many of us, myself included, are asking God, “Why?”  How do we bring such pain and so many questions to God in prayer?  Often the church does a good job at celebration, but does not know how to lament.  This is unfortunate because the Bible provides many examples of lament.  Here is one from a book full of lamentations:

Cry out to the Lord;
Moan, Daughter Zion!
Let your tears flow like a torrent
day and night;
Let there be no respite for you,
no repose for your eyes.
Rise up, shrill in the night,
at the beginning of every watch;
Pour out your heart like water
in the presence of the Lord
Lift up your hands to God
for the lives of your little ones.

Lamentations 2:18-19 NAB

We rarely know the answers to our questions of Why? this side of heaven.  In times like this, our hope is in the resurrection.  Jesus was born in a manger to ultimately teach and show a broken world what it means to live in right relationship with God and others.  In the face of that perfect love, the world executed him on a “Good Friday.”  But death could not hold him, and God raised him from the dead three days later.  We trust that in our baptism we participate in the death of Jesus and the resurrection of Jesus.  But right now we are living in that in-between time of trial, pain, and suffering when the body is still in the grave.

On Sunday (at Lansing Christian School @ 9.30 & 11.15) and Monday (at Grumpy’s @ 7PM) we will take some time to write notes and prayers to Sandy Hook Elementary School, and our fellow United Methodist Church, Newtown UMC, which is within walking distance of the school and has been a center of helping people grieve, lament, and seek God amidst this great tragedy.

I hope you will join us tomorrow as we continue to celebrate Christmas (don’t forget to bring in your used candles for our community Advent candle on Christmas Eve, which reminds us that Jesus was Light amidst darkness) but also take some time to lament this tragedy.

Peace,
Pastor Tom

P.S. Here are some resources that you might find helpful right now:

Why? – The best sermon series I’ve heard on the question of God’s will and suffering (by Adam Hamilton)

Newtown UMC – The United Methodist Church within walking distance of the school

UMC News – An article about Newtown UMC

School Violence Spiritual Resources – Compiled by the United Methodist Church

Quadruple Amputee Swimmer

philippe croizon

I found this man, Philippe Croizon, quite inspiring.  He’s a quadruple amputee seeking to swim across various challenging passages that connect seven different continents.

Solving the Problem of Suffering at the Pub

The Question of GodThis Thursday pub group will meet at the Soup Spoon Cafe (Michigan St.) to talk about chapter 8 in The Question of God: C.S. Lewis and Sigmund Freud Debate God, Love, Sex, and the Meaning of Life. This week’s chapter is titled Pain: How Can We Resolve the Question of Suffering? Join us for what is sure to be an interesting conversation.

What should I feel?

Off the TracksAfter this past Sunday’s message, Off the Tracks – Personal Sin, I received the following question:

How do I know when I’m back on the tracks? Does it feel different? Should I feel different after asking God into my life?

It’s a great question.  Let me back up and review just for a moment before answering the question. I suggested that sin is anything whether intentional or unintentional that causes our lives to jump off the tracks of God’s will.  There are two basic steps for getting your life back on the tracks.  First, tell the truth about yourself.  Admit to yourself and God that your life is off the tracks.  Second, receive God’s lift of forgiveness back on the tracks.

So how do you know when you’re back on the tracks?  Does it feel different?  Well, yes and no.  Paul talks about the “Spirit bearing witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs, heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ” (Romans 8:16-17a).  I think that the general experience of Christians has been that when they experience God’s forgiveness, there is a kind of peace in their spirit and soul.  It is God’s Spirit dwelling in friendship with your spirit.

And yet, not every Christian experiences this quite the same way.  John Wesley, the founder of Methodism, desired to experience this “witness of the Spirit” all his life and wrote a couple of sermons about it, but while he sought it himself and preached that we should expect it and look for it, his diary shows that he often did not feel it himself.  Some of us will simply experience a new confidence or commitment in seeking and following God’s way for our life, but nothing that seems “supernatural.”

But on another level we may actually feel worse.  If we continue reading Paul’s thoughts we hear him say, “If, in fact, we suffer with him so that we may also be glorified with him” (Romans 8:17b).  We should expect there to be suffering involved in following Christ.  This suffering may come from persecution or it may come from denying our bodies all their passions and lusts.  It also may come from the paradoxical experience that the more spiritually mature you are the more you realize how far you have to go.  The more that sin loses its grip on your life, the more you realize just how deep sin runs. Should you feel different?  Yes.  You should feel peace.  And no.  You may feel worse.

Maybe the best image to help one understand this situation is that of a storm over deep water.  The top of the water may rage at the tempest of the storm with rolling breakers, but below the surface the water is as calm as it ever has been.  The outside of your life may be filled with suffering, but on the inside there is a deep reservoir of peace that was not there before.

Then again, I wonder if God isn’t wonderful enough to work in as many ways as there are individuals, and that means every person’s experience will be a little different.  I will never forget what Rick Ray said when I baptized him last summer: “For forty years I have wondered how God could forgive me for things I couldn’t even forgive myself.  Then I realized that it didn’t matter what I thought.  It only mattered what God thought.”  Amen.

The Shack by William Paul Young

The ShackThe Shack
By William Paul Young
Audio Book
Library (CD/Print)
Rating: 7 of 10

I’m a little behind the curve on this book.  It came out while I was in seminary, and in seminary you don’t read anything that hasn’t been assigned.  While The Shack is a little theologically off at times, I found that overall it was a compelling story.

The basic question of The Shack is the question of theodicy, which has to do with justifying God (theo – God, dike – justice).  Why does a good God let bad things happen?  This is a dangerous path to explore, but I think Young has imagined a better answer to the question through the form of narrative than others have through other forms.

The plot involves a father named Mac whose daughter was abducted and killed while on a camping trip.  Mac finds himself in a “deep sadness” for years following the tragedy.  One day he receives a mysterious letter from “Papa” inviting him to the shack for the weekend.  “Papa” is his wife’s name for God.  He wonders if it is a joke, but he decides to go anyway.  The rest of the story involves Mac’s experience with Papa, Jesus, and Sarayu, the Trinitarian God of The Shack.

I found the first half of this book very moving. I was transported into the story.  Mac’s situation grabbed my heart.  His pain and the questions surrounding it became my pain and my questions.  I, like Mac, wanted answers, and Young did an excellent job of providing powerful dialogue between God and Mac.  In the end, the answers tend not to be so much around ideas as trust in God’s goodness.  Is God good?  Is God trustworthy?  If so, then we can only trust that the pain and suffering in this world will ultimately be redeemed.  As Papa says, “We’re not justifying it [suffering and pain].  We are redeeming it” (127).

Some of the common critiques I have heard of The Shack didn’t really stick with me.  I thought the Trinitarian theology was sufficient.  Perhaps because of the plot device of having three different visible persons representing God there were times where Young missed the theological mark, but these did not bother me very much.  Then there’s Papa, God the Father, as a big black woman.  Personally, I loved this unexpected portrayal of God the Father.

While I found the story overall compelling, I do still have some critiques.  First, Young make the same mistake describing God (Papa, Jesus, Sarayu) that every search-for-the-historical-Jesus book makes: despite casting the Father as a black woman, God ends up looking and sounding a lot like the author, which in this case is a middle-class white American.  God is just a little too close and familiar (immanent) and not quite incomprehensible enough (transcendent).

Second, Young has a very low view of the church.  The church comes across as a dead and dry institution.  A relationship with God seems to be primarily about one’s personal relationship with God and has little to do with community.  The plot structure of the book is inherently flawed in this way.  Mac meets God alone in a shack.  One could imagine a similar story populated by several other human characters wrestling alongside Mac with God.

Third, Young is a little too optimistic for me about the possibility of salvation through other religions.  I don’t discount that there is much about God that we Christians can learn from other religions, but if a basic tenant of our belief is that God became a human in Jesus, I think this is a truth we must share with others and a truth we must claim has some kind of real and even eternal significance for others.

I think this book could be extremely helpful to someone who was struggling with a major loss or tragedy in life.  It is a kind of pastoral book providing comfort in the face of pain.  Young tells a powerful story to answer complex questions, and amidst its flaws herein lays the magic of this book.  In a way that other non-fiction books do not, The Shack engages not just our intellect but also our emotions and imaginations.

Currently Reading/Listening
Generation to Generation
by Edwin H. Friedman
Sacred Parenting
by Gary Thomas
Scandalous Risks
by Susan Howatch
The Good Man Jesus and the Scoundrel Christ
by Phillip Pullman
Love Wins
by Rob Bell
Make Anger Your Ally
by Neill Clark Warren
Leading from the Heart
by Mike Krzyzewski

Friendship with Self: A Series on the Book of James

Friendship with Self

Friendship with Self: A Series on the Book of James
Sycamore
Creek Church
James 1:1-4
Tom Arthur
May 30, 2010

Peace, Friends!

Does anyone like watching sunsets?  Before I went to seminary, Sarah and I lived in Petoskey for eight years and had the opportunity to see many amazing sunsets.  Petoskey is one of the best places to watch sunsets.  Petoskey is on what is called the sunset side of the state as compared to the eastern shore on Lake Huron which is called the sunrise side of the state.  Ironically enough, the name “Petoskey” comes from Chief Petosega, the son of a wealthy French fur trader and an Odawa princess, and means “Rising Sun.”  There is a park in Petoskey called “Sunset Park,” and it is perched over the waterfront up on an old quarry cliff.  From this vantage point one can easily and perfectly see the sun over the marina and all the rigging of sail boats right in the middle of the Little Traverse Bay.  Here the “sun comes out like a bridegroom from his wedding canopy and runs his course with joy” (Psalm 19).  Many nights Sarah and I have gotten Kilwin’s ice-cream and spent the last hours of the day simply watching the sun go down.

Another interesting feature of Petoskey are the clouds.  There are about an equal number of sunny days in the year as there are cloudy days.  Unfortunately most of the cloudy days congregate in the winter and most of the sunny days gather together in the summer.  Generally speaking, clouds in our culture symbolize trouble.  They hint at or forecast rain or even great storms.  Sarah and I sailed with a friend for ten days from Northern Michigan to Up-state New York.  It seemed we were always trying to outrun a front of clouds and storms.  It also seemed like we were always losing that race.  One time we made it into a harbor just as the clouds burst forth both rain and lightning.  We hunkered down as the winds blew the boat to and fro.  Soon we found ourselves aground in the harbor.  Clouds were not something we looked forward to.  In fact, there’s even a disorder based on the clouds.  It’s called “SAD” or seasonal affective disorder. When some people go so many cloudy days, then they become depressed.  There is a high rate of SAD in Northern Michigan.

Now here’s the odd thing about clouds and sunsets that I began to notice after eight years of watching them: it’s the clouds that make the sunset.  If there are no clouds in the sky when the sun sets, it can be beautiful, but when there are clouds in the sky as the sun sets, the sunset is often spectacular!  The clouds make the sunset.  The clouds provide the character for the light of the sun to make beautiful.

Consider these pictures I’ve taken in various places.  Here is a picture of the sun setting in Petoskey over the break wall.  Beautiful.

Petoskey Marina

But here’s a picture of the same Little Traverse Bay and sunsets with clouds.  Stunning!

Little Traverse Bay

I also love backpacking and seen many sunsets from a campsite.  Here’s a picture I took while on Grand Island in the Upper Peninsula looking out over Lake Superior.  It’s a beautiful sunset.

Grand Island

But here’s a picture on a trip with the same group of guys, several years later, on Charlie’s Bunion along the Appalachian Trail in the Great Smokey Mountains National Park in North Carolina.  This time the sunset has clouds.  Incredible!

Charlie's Bunion

The same phenomenon happens no matter where you’re at in the world.  While traveling in the Middle East I took this picture from the top of a crusader castle in Palmyra, Syria.  The sun was setting over the vast desert.  Not a cloud in sight. It was a beautiful sunset.

Palmyra

But here’s a picture from the same trip.  This time from Hydra Island looking out over the Mediterranean Sea.  Clouds are in this sunset.  Magnificent!

Hydra Island

You see, it’s the clouds that make the sunset.  It’s the things in our atmosphere that we consider to be negative, that give us trouble that actually give the sunset its beautiful character.  The clouds make the sunset.

I think this same basic idea is present in the book of James when he talks about the trials and troubles that come our way.  Listen for this same basic concept as I read the very beginning of the book of James

James 1:1-4

1 This letter is from James, a slave of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ. It is written to Jewish Christians scattered among the nations. Greetings!

2 Dear brothers and sisters, whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. 3 For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. 4 So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be strong in character and ready for anything.

This is God’s story, God’s teaching for us today.  Thank you, God!

Did you catch how James sees the clouds making the sunset?  Trouble should equal joy, because joy equals endurance and endurance equals growth and growth equals maturity.  This is what it means to grow in your friendship with yourself: to grow in maturity.

James is very interested throughout his whole book in the idea and process of maturity.  The Greek word behind maturity is “teleios” and it shows up five different times in the book of James.  The old-school way of translating “teleios” was “perfection.”  Perfection?  Can we really reach perfection?  That’s a pretty crazy idea.  Perhaps “maturity” is a better way to understand teleios.  Let’s walk through James and see what exactly James means by perfection or maturity.

First, maturity is a gift from God.  James says, “Whatever is good and perfect [teleios] comes to us from God above, who created all heaven’s lights. Unlike them, he never changes or casts shifting shadows” (1:17, NLT).  Maturity isn’t so much about something we do but about what God does in us.  When I first started exploring this issue of maturity or perfection, I asked my grandmother what she thought about it all.  She was a woman that I looked up to in terms of her faith.  Our initial conversation was on the phone, and I was so struck by what she had to say that I asked her to write it down for me.  She wrote me a letter to tell me about it.  Here’s what she said:

My witness to God’s sanctifying power.

Jesus took our 7-year old son, John Paul in death in 1951.  John Paul had been ill 5 months with meningitis.  We sat by his bed side many hours, talking, reading to him and playing records.  He had loved the Christmas records.  One day we were listening to “Oh Come All Ye Faithful.”  He had been in a coma for days.  As the record played he said, “Joyful and triumphant.”  I said, “Oh!  John Paul, where have you been?”  He said, “I have been in my own fair home and you weren’t there.”

From that time on he seemed to improve, could set up and be in a walker that had a seat.

One Sunday morning, as Paul [her husband] was preparing for church, John Paul asked, “Where is my Daddy.”  Paul went to him so he would know his Daddy was there.

When Paul returned from church he saw something was wrong.  I rushed to him and spoke his name.  He heard me for he said, “Here,” and he was gone.  God took him from our care.

After this I wanted more than ever to be ready for heaven.  We had written on his grave stone—Heaven is nearer since he entered there.

I prayed and read the Bible more seeking more of God.  Paul was working.  Judy [my mom, and her oldest and now only child] was in first grade so I had time alone.  In searching I learned that the Holy Spirit was the gift of God to believers.  All I needed to do was to accept the gift holiness [perfection/maturity].  As I believed that instant I felt a gentle warming of my body from the top of my head to the bottom of my feet and I knew that the Holy Spirit had entered my life.  [On the phone she told me that had happened while she was washing the windows.]

Were there any changes?  Only that I knew I was renewed in spirit and there was a desire to serve and labor for the Lord.  The church gave us plenty to do.

I know that this gift of the Holy Spirit doesn’t come in such feeling to every one.  I remember asking my mother how she knew she was sanctified.  She said it was just the knowledge that she was committed completely to the Lord [perfection/maturity]…

Mary White

Two things I think worth noticing in this letter are that she considered the gift of maturity, complete commitment to the Lord, a gift that comes from the Holy Spirit.  The second is that this gift came during a time of intense trial, trouble, and suffering.  Maturity is a gift, and according to James, this gift often comes in times of trouble.

Second, maturity is a completeness that lacks nothing.  James says, “And let endurance have its full [teleios] effect, so that you may be mature [teleios] and complete, lacking in nothing” (1:4, NRSV).  I mentioned earlier that I went on a ten-day sailing trip with a friend from Northern Michigan to upstate New York.  This trip was filled with all kinds of clouds, literally.  We began in Lake Michigan and then sailed down Lake Huron into Lake St. Clair.  From there we sailed east through Lake Erie.  We by-passed Niagara Falls by way of the Welland Canal.  We finished our trip in Lake Ontario.  By the end of those ten days and the troubles we had encountered, we were more prepared to meet the same troubles again.  I don’t know that I was out long enough and encountered so many troubles that I am yet to the point of lacking nothing when it comes to sailing (in fact, I know that I am not because the next summer I ran another friend’s sailboat aground!), but I am a more “mature,” more “perfect” sailor than I was when I began.  Perfect maturity is a completeness that lacks nothing.  Growing in maturity is a process of growing in that direction.

Third, maturity perseveres in doing good.  James says, “But those who look into the perfect [teleios] law, the law of liberty, and persevere, being not hearers who forget but doers who act—they will be blessed in their doing” (1:25, NRSV).  In other words, you may not feel like doing good, but as you grow in maturity you no longer are controlled by your feelings.  Maturity is knowing the good that needs to be done and doing it no matter what you feel like doing.  When you do what is good even when you don’t feel like it, when you persevere, you receive a blessing.  How many of you have ever come to church when you didn’t feel like it and left glad that you came?  One time I was planning a hike with a friend on the John Muir trail in Yosemite.  We were going to hike 55 miles over five days.  One of those days included sixteen miles and 2500 feet of elevation.  Did I mention that my friend is also an Ironman?  Yes, he swam 2.4 miles, rode 112 miles on his bike, and ran a 26 mile marathon all in one day.  You know what I had to do to be ready for this trip?  Train.  Hard!  When I began I could barely go ten minutes on a Stairmaster.  By the time I was done I could easily stay on the Stairmaster for an hour or more.   I did not particularly feel like or want or enjoy training almost every day for six months for that hike, but when I finally hit the trail, I was more prepared for a hike than I had ever been.  The best part about it was that I seriously enjoyed the hiking.  Yes, I was sore at the end of every day, but by the morning I had completely recuperated.  I persevered in training and received the blessing of the joy of the trail, the joy of being outside.  Maturity perseveres in doing good no matter what you feel like.

Fourth, it is worth pointing out one thing that maturity is not.  It is not absolute perfection where you never make mistakes.  James says, “All of us make many mistakes. Anyone who makes no mistakes in speaking is perfect [teleios], able to keep the whole body in check with a bridle” (3:2, NRSV).  There is a tension, I think, in this verse.  On the one hand James says that making no mistakes in speaking is perfection, but this comes on the heels of him having just said that all of us make many mistakes!  So which is it?  Mistakes or no mistakes? I think what he’s saying is that we all make mistakes, and we can grow in making fewer and fewer mistakes with our tongues.  When I first talked to my grandmother on the phone about perfection and maturity, I asked her if she ever made mistakes after she had received this gift of the Holy Spirit of complete devotion to the Lord.  She said that she certainly did make mistakes, and that she had to ask for forgiveness for them all.  The difference seemed to be that she did not intentionally seek to disobey God or hurt others, but she still made mistakes.

Maturity for James is a gift of God that brings one to a place of maturity by way of endurance through trials and trouble so that one perseveres in the good works of loving one’s neighbor as oneself.

Perhaps this morning, you’re saying to me, “Tom, I get it.  I see that clouds make the sunset.  The troubles in our lives are like clouds upon which the sun of God’s grace can shine and create character.  Let me tell you though.  I’ve go so much trouble that the sky of my life is entirely overcast.  The light of the sun can’t even shine through.  God has forgotten me.”

I agree.  Sometimes there are so many troubles in our lives that we can’t see any of God’s grace.  Sometimes it really looks like God has forgotten us, but did you know that when the sky is entirely overcast, that there is a sunset on the other side, above the clouds?  You may not be able to see it, but from another perspective, from God’s perspective, something amazing is happening.  The clouds make the sunset, and occasionally only God can see it.

Sunset Above the Clouds

O merciful Father, who has taught us in your holy Word that you do not willingly afflict or grieve the children of humanity: Look with pity upon the sorrows of your servants for whom our prayers are offered.  Remember us, O Lord, in mercy , nourish our souls with patience, comfort us with a sense of your goodness, lift up your countenance upon us, and give us peace, through Jesus Christ our Lord.  Amen. (Book of Common Prayer)