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Hercules: How To Be Strong

July 28, 2014 by Leave a Comment

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God on Film – Hercules: How To Be Strong
Sycamore Creek Church
July 27/28, 2014
Tom Arthur

 

 

Peace Friends!

Today we continue in our summer series, God on Film.  We’ve been looking at a different summer blockbuster each week and exploring what the Bible says about a theme from that movie.  Today we look at the movie Hercules.

Most of us are familiar with who Hercules is.  We know he’s strong, but most of us don’t know many details about Hercules’ life.  Hercules is strong because he is the son of the god, Zeus, and the mortal, Alcmene.  In a fit of madness brought on by Hera, Zeus’ wife and Hercules’ step-mother, Hercules kills his wife and six sons.  He then seeks penance to atone for his actions.  He is given twelve labors by king Eurystheus, and we find that there is nothing Hercules can’t do.  His strength allows him to do whatever he wants, slaying and capturing fierce and fast wild animals and monsters: the Nemean Lion, Lernaean hydra, Golden Hind of Artemis, the Erymanthian Boar, all the way to Cerberus, the hound of hell who guards the entrance so no one gets in or out.  In the end because of his great strength and courage, Hercules is awarded immortality by the gods.

Here’s a news flash for us all today: None of us are Hercules.  Unlike Hercules, we can’t do anything we want.  We can’t gain immortality by our strength and courage.  So what do we do?  Today I want to talk about two ways that each of us can be strong.

1. Use your unique strengths to build God’s kingdom
Each of us has a unique set of gifts, talents, and passions that makes us unique and unlike anyone else.  Paul, the first missionary of the church, wrote about these calling them  spiritual gifts.  In his letter to the church at Corinth he wrote:

Are we all apostles? Are we all prophets? Are we all teachers? Do we all have the power to do miracles? Do we all have the gift of healing? Do we all have the ability to speak in unknown languages? Do we all have the ability to interpret unknown languages? Of course not!
~1 Corinthians 12:29-30 NLT

Each one of us is given a unique talent to use to build God’s kingdom here on Earth.  Some of those gifts may seem more grand or important than others.  It may seem like the pastor or the one who speaks and leads has the most important role in the church, but this isn’t true.  I refer to the media team as my co-preachers.  I can’t do what I do up front without them doing what they do behind the scenes (And if they do what they do well, then no one even notices them!).  So Paul says:

In fact, some parts of the body that seem weakest and least important are actually the most necessary.
~1 Corinthians 12:22 NLT

This reminds me of the Jewish morning prayer that I came across sometime ago in a Jewish prayer book.  I’ve shared it before but this prayer just never gets old!

Blessed are you, O Lord, King of the Universe, who formed humankind with wisdom, and created in them many orifices and passages.  It is revealed and known before your throne of glory, that if one of them were open [that should be shut], or one of them were shut [that should be open], then it would be impossible to exist and to stand before you.  Blessed are you, O Lord, Healer of all flesh, who does wondrously.

Paul lists several gifts in his first letter to the Corinthians but he also lists gifts in two other places: Romans 12 & Ephesians 4.  I don’t think Paul was trying to be exhaustive in his list but was trying to give us a general direction about how the church works together building God’s Kingdom by relying upon the strengths of each one of us.

If you want to get a better perspective on your own strengths there are several ways you can do that.  We offer a free online assessment tool called assessme.org.  If you paid for it yourself it would cost you $15, but we offer it to your free.  Follow this link and it will take you about twenty minutes to fill out four inventories: http://www.assessme.org/2364.aspx.  You’ll be given some tips on how to use those strengths that God has given you.  You’ll also be in our database so that when we’re looking for someone for a unique volunteer opportunity that requires your strengths, we’ll know that you would really thrive in that setting.

Another tool that I and the staff have found helpful lately in understanding our strengths is the DiSC personality profile.  Each of the letters stand for one of four different personality tendencies:

D – Dominance
I – Influence
S – Steadiness
C – Compliance

These four different personality traits follow along two different axis: Outoing vs. Reserved oriented and People vs. Task oriented.  Here’s a helpful picture to help you understand:

 

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Jeremy and I recently took an online version of the DiSC that created a comparison profile between the two of us.  Jeremy’s primary personality trait is an “I” or influencer.  His secondary trait is a “S” or steadiness.  I am the exact opposite.  My primary trait is “D” or “dominance” and secondary trait is “C” or Compliance.    Here’s the cool thing about Jeremy and me: we compliment each other really well.  Our strengths walk side by side really well.  Jeremy is outgoing; Tom is private.  Jeremy is energetic; Tom is calm.  Jeremy is tactful; Tom is frank.  Jeremy and Tom are both strong-willed rather than accommodating.  Jeremy and Tom are both skeptical rather than accepting.  And lastly Jeremy and Tom are both driven rather than patient.

Another tool that we’ve found helpful lately in understanding our strengths is Go Put Your Strengths to Work by Marcus Buckingham.  Buckingham describes a strength as something that makes you feel strong.  The only person who can know your strengths then is you.  He says the key to lasting impact and success in whatever you are doing is to play to your strengths.  Here are the strength statements that Jeremy and I both came up with:

Tom Strength Statements:

  1. I feel strong when I spend time guiding, coaching, mentoring, brainstorming with competent, creative, and missional leaders (at SCC and elsewhere) for a better future for the church and seeing them put into practice our dreaming and visioning to develop successful programs that reach new people in a variety of ways.
  2. I feel strong when I create or spend time in environments that challenge me intellectually and philosophically with other people who are deeply interested in the same topic (reading, workshops, education, discussion groups, etc.).
  3. I feel strong when I have time to “breathe” (space and time) to accomplish the small things that add up.

Jeremy Strength Statements

  1. I feel strong when making inspiring and excellent music with other competent musicians when given the time to prepare and be creative.
  2. I feel strong when fostering/deepening existing and new friendships with those related to the ministry of Sycamore Creek Church in informal settings.
  3. I feel strong when following a leader I trust to motivate and encourage a competent, committed, and motivated team.
  4. I feel strong when executing plans that result in successful outcomes (i.e. retreats, worship services, off site gatherings, rehearsals, etc.).

What are your strengths?  How can God use those to build God’s Kingdom right here on Earth?  Take some time to pray about these strengths and give them up to God for God to use.

2. Let your weaknesses drive you to rely on God’s strength
So strengths are just one side of the coin.  The other side is our weaknesses.  You might think that there’s no way for weaknesses to make you strong, but you would be wrong.  Paul not only talks about strengths but he also talks about how weaknesses can make each of us strong.  In his second letter to the church at Corinth he says:

I will boast only about my weaknesses. If I wanted to boast, I would be no fool in doing so, because I would be telling the truth. But I won’t do it, because I don’t want anyone to give me credit beyond what they can see in my life or hear in my message, even though I have received such wonderful revelations from God. So to keep me from becoming proud, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger from Satan to torment me and keep me from becoming proud.

Three different times I begged the Lord to take it away. Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
~2 Corinthians 12:5-10 NLT

Here’s an important truth we learn from Paul: you can’t get rid of all your weaknesses.  He says that “three different times I begged the Lord to take it away” but God wouldn’t do it.  Sometimes weaknesses are a matter of maturity.  They will go away as you mature.  Sometimes our weaknesses are a matter of context.  They will go away as the context changes.  But sometimes our weaknesses are a matter of our humanity.  They will never go away.

Your weaknesses do two things.  First, your weaknesses drive you to use your strengths.  You can’t be someone you’re not.  Some of us are 5’3”, and we’re trying to play center under the basket.  Others of us are 6’11”, and we’re trying to play point guard.  If you’re 5’3” get out on the perimeter.   If you’re 6’11”, get under the basket.

Second, our weaknesses drive us to rely upon God.  Paul says, “So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses.”  Here’s the Achilles heel of strengths.  Strength breeds pride, and pride drives us away from God.  Pride is competitive.  C.S. Lewis describes pride in this way:

Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man. We say that people are proud of being rich, or clever, or good-looking, but they are not. They are proud of being richer, or cleverer, or better-looking than others…It is the comparison that makes you proud: the pleasure of being above the rest.
~C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

Søren Kierkegaard, the 19th century philosopher and Christian says:

The proud person always wants to do the right thing, the great thing. But because he wants to do it in his own strength, he is fighting not with man, but with God.
~Søren Kierkegaard 

I think that the real crux of pride is that it is based on a lie.  Pride is not telling the truth about yourself.  It is an “inordinate and unreasonable self-esteem” (Evangelical Dictionary of Theology).

While strength tends to breed pride, weakness tends to breed humility, and humility is true and lasting strength.  Whereas pride is telling a lie about yourself, humility is true strength because humility is telling the truth about yourself.  Paul says, “If I wanted to boast, I would be no fool in doing so, because I would be telling the truth.”  Paul knows who he is, but he chooses not to boast about it because he knows it would breed pride and drive him away from God.  Augustine, a 4th century church leader, says, “If you asked me what is the first precept of the Christian religion I will answer, first, second and third, humility.”  Humility is having an appropriate awareness of your limitations in body, mind and spirit or knowing your physical, mental, and spiritual limitations.

Humility has three directions.  We are humble in relation to God.  The humble person knows that she is totally dependent upon God.  We are humble in relation to others.  The humble person knows that he is here to serve others rather than be served.  And we are humble in relation to the self.  The humble person knows that he is wounded, guilty, and in captivity and in need of healing, forgiveness, and rescue.  In all three of these areas we are unable to save ourselves.  The humble person knows this.  Paul hears from God that God’s “grace is all you need.”

All of us have a sense that the world isn’t quite like it’s supposed to be.  The Christian knows that the world was created for good by God.  But pride led us to depend upon ourselves and focus inward.  In the process the world was damaged by evil.  God saw the state of the world and had compassion on it.  He entered into the world in his son, Jesus Christ, to heal, forgive, and rescue the world.  He created a community that would have God’s resources to do these things.  We join that community when we ask Jesus to forgive us and lead us.  Then we join that community and are sent out into the world to accomplish that same mission: to heal, forgive, and rescue the world with the strengths that God has given each of us and relying upon God all the way.  You might think that we could do all this without Jesus, God, or God’s community, the church.  But relying upon ourselves was what got us into this mess in the first place.  That’s why our weaknesses are so important.  They drive us to rely upon God and God alone.

Take some time to consider your weaknesses and lift them up to God in prayer.  Here is a prayer that might be helpful to you today:

We thank you, God, also for those disappointments and failures that lead us to acknowledge our dependence on you alone.
~Book of Common Prayer

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Emotional Strength *

January 13, 2014 by Leave a Comment

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Samson – Emotional Strength *
Sycamore Creek Church
January 12/13, 2014
Tom Arthur 

Peace friends!

Today we continue a series exploring Samson, the judge of Israel who had high highs and low lows.  Samson was set aside at birth for God to save the people from the Philistines. Israel had become so closely connected and assimilated with the Philistines that they were at risk of losing their own identity and God’s call on their lives.  Samson was a man of great potential but made self destructive decisions.  He was an incredibly strong man with a dangerously weak will.  Last week we saw that he struggled with lust (I want it!), entitlement (I deserve it!), and pride (I can handle it!).  In the midst of those struggles this strong man became weak.  Today we’re going to explore a further key idea in Samson’s life:

Samson was emotion-driven not Spirit-led.

Now it may seem odd to say that a man known for his strength was emotion-driven.  We men don’t like to think of ourselves as emotional.  We say that women are emotional, and men are strong.  But this isn’t really true.  The difference is more about how men and women process emotion.  Women talk.  Men act.  Women say, “Come over and have tea so we can talk.”  Men do beer and balls…football, basketball, baseball, hockeyball.

Let me give you an example from my own marriage.  Here’s the difference between parenting styles with me and Sarah when it comes to potty training.  Sarah likes to talk it out with Micah: “Micah, do you need to go potty?  Micah, don’t you think you should give it a try?  Micah, it’s so much easier to go potty than to change a diaper.”  She tries to creatively cajole him into it.  The more frustrated she gets the more she talks to him about what he should do.  Here’s how I make it work: “Micah, go sit on the potty.”  If he doesn’t go, I pick him up and make him go.  The more frustrated I get, the fewer words I use and the more I rely on physical power to persuade.  Sarah: Creative Cajoler.  Tom: Physical Power to Persuade.

While generalizations are not always true, this one can be helpful for our exploration of Samson today.  Too often men allow their emotions to lead their actions.  You need to engage with kids when you get home, but you sit in front of the TV because you’re emotionally fried after working hard.  You do or say something and should apologize, but you don’t because of pride.  Someone angers you and you explode in anger even though you know you shouldn’t.

Paul, the first Christian missionary said:

Live by the Spirit, I say, and do not gratify the desires of the flesh.  For what the flesh desires is opposed to the Spirit, and what the Spirit desires is opposed to the flesh…
Galatians 5:16-17 NRSV

Emotions aren’t always bad, in fact they’re a gift.  But when we let our emotions take over, they become the “flesh” that Paul is talking about that is opposed to God’s Spirit at work in us.

So let’s get to Samson.  We find in the story of Samson a battle of the riddle.  Samson has a competition with a bunch of other guys around a riddle.  Do men always have to compete?  But he doesn’t leave it at a competition. He adds a bet.  Do men always have to bet to make the competition fun?  Here’s the riddle:

Out of the eater came something to eat.
Out of the strong came something sweet.
Judges 14:14 NRSV

So the answer to this riddle is a lion and honey.  Samson killed a lion, came back later and found in its corpse a bunch of bees and honey.  The Philistine men can’t figure it out, so they threaten Samson’s Philistine wife (not Delilah), and she cries to Samson and gets the answer from him.  He tells her, and she tells them.  They solve the riddle and Samson is furious.  He says:

If you hadn’t plowed with my heifer, you would not have found out my riddle.
Judges 14:18 NRSV

OK, guys.  First, don’t let another guy plow with your wife.  Second, don’t call your wife a heifer!  Instead of being led by the Spirit, Samson becomes driven by his emotion, particularly his anger.  He takes the lives of 30 innocent men to pay his bet.  Samson then leaves the party, and his wife’s dad thinks that he’s abandoned his daughter so he gives her to another man.  Samson comes back several weeks later and finds that his wife has been given to someone else.  So he takes 150 foxes, ties them together, lights their tails on fire, and sets them lose in the Philistine grain fields.  Philistines become furious and burn Samson’s wife and her dad.

Anger leads to a destructive cycle of violence in Samson’s life and becomes Samson’s default emotion.  But what did Samson have to be angry about?  He chose to marry with “uncircumcised Philistines” (this is a religious distinction not ethnic distinction), against his parents’ advice.  He picked the riddle.  He gave the answer away.  He took the foxes to burn the field.  Who should Samson be angry with?

Too often anger becomes the default emotion of many men.  We’re angry at the world, when we should be angry at ourselves.  We end up taking it out on someone else.  My wife won’t meet my physical needs, but have you met her emotional needs?  My kids don’t want to spend time with me now, but did you spend time with them then?  I’m angry at God about my circumstances, but they are the natural consequences of my choices.  Let’s call it what it is: I need forgiveness.  I need accountability.  I need to apologize to my kids, my wife, my boss, etc., and I need make real changes.  [Side note: wives, when your husband apologizes, receive the apology.  You are on humble ground.  Yes, keep your expectation of changed behavior, but an apologizing husband is a humbled husband.]

The anger and violence in Samson raises all kinds of questions about God, God’s people, and how God works in our world.  We read:

The spirit of the Lord rushed on him, and the ropes that were on his arms became like flax that has caught fire, and his bonds melted off his hands.  Then he found a fresh jawbone of a donkey, reached down and took it, and with it he killed a thousand men.
Judges 15:14-16 NRSV

How can God’s Spirit give him power and he be so violent?  Here’s a distinction that is very important to understand.  We can have the gifts of God’s Spirit in us and lack the fruit of God’s Spirit.  What do I mean?  Think about that passage about love that gets read at every wedding you’ve ever been at.  It’s from Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians and it says:

If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.  And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.  If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Corinthians 13:1-3 NRSV

You can have the supernatural gift of tongues and speak in all kinds of language but without love, you’re a noisy gong.  You can prophecy about the future in miraculous ways, but without love you’re nothing.  You can have amazing faith in God, but without love it’s nothing.  You can choose voluntary poverty and asceticism, but without love you’re really poor.  In other words, God gives all of us gifts, some of them quite impressive on the outside, but the character traits of God’s Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control—may be totally absent.  We can have external excellence and internal rot.  We are then white-washed tombs.

Angry, violent and abusive men are often loved by many, and many are surprised to find that at home they verbally or physically abuse their wives.  Powerful spiritual leaders can lead secret sinful lives (which is really most of us!).  Samson is super strong but without love he is just an aggressive animal, a violent tyrant, a brutal bully.  To be Spirit-led is to have not just the gifts of God’s Spirit at work in us but also the fruit, to have the talent and the character of Christ. 

I have had to wrestle with anger myself.  I’ve had to look at the rot in my own life.  Anger has raised its head more often that I would like.  Something I’ve come to notice is that anger is not the opposite of love, apathy is the opposite of love.  Anger and love are often very closely related.  In fact, anger by itself isn’t necessarily bad.  One book I read suggested that anger is a physiological readiness to respond (Neil Clark Warren, Make Anger Your Ally).  Anger is actually a secondary emotion to frustration, fear, or hurt.  Anger has a lot of power in it, but we need to take that power and put it purpose, to let it be Spirit-led rather than destructive.  Paul tells us:

Be angry but do not sin.
Ephesians 4:26 NRSV 

Anger by itself is not a sin.  It’s what you do with the anger.  Will you let it be led by the character of Christ in you?  Let me suggest from my own wrestling with anger a To Do List and a To Don’t List.  First the To Don’t list:

To Don’t List

  1. Don’t curse at your loved ones.  When was the last time you called your wife a word that better describe a female dog?  Don’t ever call your wife a B#%^&.  Don’t do it.  Just don’t.  It’s not kind or gentle.  Don’t aim any curse words at her.  Don’t use aggressive language to try to motivate your wife or your kids.  That’s being emotion-drive rather than Spirit-led.
  2. Don’t belittle your loved ones.  Don’t tell your loved ones how bad they are.  Don’t tell them they’re worthless or won’t amount to anything.  Don’t tell your wife this or your kids.  Don’t tear down your family with your words.  That’s being emotion-driven, not Spirit-led.
  3. Don’t use physical power to coerce your wife.  Don’t try to get your wife to do what you want her to do by treating her like she’s a toddler.  You don’t pick your wife up and move her.  She is her own person.  You don’t discipline your wife as though she were a child.  You don’t hit your wife in any way.  This is being emotion-driven rather than Spirit-led.
  4. Don’t always use physical power with your kids.  If your go-to method of discipline with your kids is always physical power, you are allowing anger to drive you rather than creative loving discipline.  Yes, restraint is often warranted.  Holding your kids back from hurting themselves is one thing.  Hitting them or pushing them is another.  If you find yourself not being very creative in your discipline and resorting to physical power over and over again, you’re being emotion-driven rather than Spirit-led.

To Do List

  1. Slow it down.  When you’re angry, you’ve got to slow things down.  Emotions and decisions can add up quickly.  How do you slow it down so that you can be Spirit-led rather than emotion-driven?  Here’s how…
  2. Walk away and cool down.  When you get angry you enter into a state of being flooded.  When your heart-beat gets over 100BMP, all kinds of things are happening in your body with adrenaline and hormones.  You won’t think straight when your heartbeat hits 100BPM.  You’ve got to walk away and let your body get back to a normal state so that you’re Spirit-led and not emotion-driven.
  3. Ask yourself: “What do I really want?”  That’s a key question that often gets lost  amidst anger.  The end goal gets missed and short-term goals of dominating the moment take over.  “What do I really want?” requires you think about what God really wants in that situation, and that’s being Spirit-led rather than emotion-driven.
  4. Come back and talk it out.  Take the initiative to come back.  Take the initiative to talk it out.  Don’t let your wife be the one who always brings difficult topics up.  Be a leader in your family.  Talk about the hard stuff.  God is in the hard stuff.  That’s being Spirit-led rather than emotion-driven.
  5. Identify and be aware of anger triggers.  Notice over time what things or situations trigger anger in you.  Consider keeping an anger journal.  The more aware you are of your anger triggers, the more you can use the power of anger to Spirit-led purposes rather than emotion-driven action.
  6. Use your anger to give you power to creatively seek what you want (long-term) rather than the short-term (explosion).  Use the power of anger to motivate you to find creative ways to discipline your kids (ask for help!), creative problem solving with your wife (ask for help!), and loving solutions.  Love is looking for the solution you would want if you were the person you were angry with.  That’s being Spirit-led rather than emotion-driven.
  7. Let your need drive you to God, and God will meet your deepest need.  Acknowledge you are in need.  Back to Samson:

By then he was very thirsty, and he called on the LORD…
Judges 15:18 NRSV

This is the first time that Samson called on the Lord through all of this!  He basically ignores God through this entire angry outburst with the Philistines, but when he finally acknowledges his need for water—a need that he can’t solve by himself—he meets the Lord again.

Men, when you call out to God, God’s strength comes in your weakness.  You can be a Spirit-led man of strength (gifts) and love (fruit) rather than an emotion-driven man of anger.  Acknowledge your need for God today and let the Spirit of God make you strong in love for God, love for your family, and all those around you.

God, may it be so in the lives of every man today.  Amen!

 

* This sermon series is based on a series by Craig Groeschel

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