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Friendship with Self: A Series on the Book of James

Friendship with Self

Friendship with Self: A Series on the Book of James
Sycamore
Creek Church
James 1:1-4
Tom Arthur
May 30, 2010

Peace, Friends!

Does anyone like watching sunsets?  Before I went to seminary, Sarah and I lived in Petoskey for eight years and had the opportunity to see many amazing sunsets.  Petoskey is one of the best places to watch sunsets.  Petoskey is on what is called the sunset side of the state as compared to the eastern shore on Lake Huron which is called the sunrise side of the state.  Ironically enough, the name “Petoskey” comes from Chief Petosega, the son of a wealthy French fur trader and an Odawa princess, and means “Rising Sun.”  There is a park in Petoskey called “Sunset Park,” and it is perched over the waterfront up on an old quarry cliff.  From this vantage point one can easily and perfectly see the sun over the marina and all the rigging of sail boats right in the middle of the Little Traverse Bay.  Here the “sun comes out like a bridegroom from his wedding canopy and runs his course with joy” (Psalm 19).  Many nights Sarah and I have gotten Kilwin’s ice-cream and spent the last hours of the day simply watching the sun go down.

Another interesting feature of Petoskey are the clouds.  There are about an equal number of sunny days in the year as there are cloudy days.  Unfortunately most of the cloudy days congregate in the winter and most of the sunny days gather together in the summer.  Generally speaking, clouds in our culture symbolize trouble.  They hint at or forecast rain or even great storms.  Sarah and I sailed with a friend for ten days from Northern Michigan to Up-state New York.  It seemed we were always trying to outrun a front of clouds and storms.  It also seemed like we were always losing that race.  One time we made it into a harbor just as the clouds burst forth both rain and lightning.  We hunkered down as the winds blew the boat to and fro.  Soon we found ourselves aground in the harbor.  Clouds were not something we looked forward to.  In fact, there’s even a disorder based on the clouds.  It’s called “SAD” or seasonal affective disorder. When some people go so many cloudy days, then they become depressed.  There is a high rate of SAD in Northern Michigan.

Now here’s the odd thing about clouds and sunsets that I began to notice after eight years of watching them: it’s the clouds that make the sunset.  If there are no clouds in the sky when the sun sets, it can be beautiful, but when there are clouds in the sky as the sun sets, the sunset is often spectacular!  The clouds make the sunset.  The clouds provide the character for the light of the sun to make beautiful.

Consider these pictures I’ve taken in various places.  Here is a picture of the sun setting in Petoskey over the break wall.  Beautiful.

Petoskey Marina

But here’s a picture of the same Little Traverse Bay and sunsets with clouds.  Stunning!

Little Traverse Bay

I also love backpacking and seen many sunsets from a campsite.  Here’s a picture I took while on Grand Island in the Upper Peninsula looking out over Lake Superior.  It’s a beautiful sunset.

Grand Island

But here’s a picture on a trip with the same group of guys, several years later, on Charlie’s Bunion along the Appalachian Trail in the Great Smokey Mountains National Park in North Carolina.  This time the sunset has clouds.  Incredible!

Charlie's Bunion

The same phenomenon happens no matter where you’re at in the world.  While traveling in the Middle East I took this picture from the top of a crusader castle in Palmyra, Syria.  The sun was setting over the vast desert.  Not a cloud in sight. It was a beautiful sunset.

Palmyra

But here’s a picture from the same trip.  This time from Hydra Island looking out over the Mediterranean Sea.  Clouds are in this sunset.  Magnificent!

Hydra Island

You see, it’s the clouds that make the sunset.  It’s the things in our atmosphere that we consider to be negative, that give us trouble that actually give the sunset its beautiful character.  The clouds make the sunset.

I think this same basic idea is present in the book of James when he talks about the trials and troubles that come our way.  Listen for this same basic concept as I read the very beginning of the book of James

James 1:1-4

1 This letter is from James, a slave of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ. It is written to Jewish Christians scattered among the nations. Greetings!

2 Dear brothers and sisters, whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. 3 For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. 4 So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be strong in character and ready for anything.

This is God’s story, God’s teaching for us today.  Thank you, God!

Did you catch how James sees the clouds making the sunset?  Trouble should equal joy, because joy equals endurance and endurance equals growth and growth equals maturity.  This is what it means to grow in your friendship with yourself: to grow in maturity.

James is very interested throughout his whole book in the idea and process of maturity.  The Greek word behind maturity is “teleios” and it shows up five different times in the book of James.  The old-school way of translating “teleios” was “perfection.”  Perfection?  Can we really reach perfection?  That’s a pretty crazy idea.  Perhaps “maturity” is a better way to understand teleios.  Let’s walk through James and see what exactly James means by perfection or maturity.

First, maturity is a gift from God.  James says, “Whatever is good and perfect [teleios] comes to us from God above, who created all heaven’s lights. Unlike them, he never changes or casts shifting shadows” (1:17, NLT).  Maturity isn’t so much about something we do but about what God does in us.  When I first started exploring this issue of maturity or perfection, I asked my grandmother what she thought about it all.  She was a woman that I looked up to in terms of her faith.  Our initial conversation was on the phone, and I was so struck by what she had to say that I asked her to write it down for me.  She wrote me a letter to tell me about it.  Here’s what she said:

My witness to God’s sanctifying power.

Jesus took our 7-year old son, John Paul in death in 1951.  John Paul had been ill 5 months with meningitis.  We sat by his bed side many hours, talking, reading to him and playing records.  He had loved the Christmas records.  One day we were listening to “Oh Come All Ye Faithful.”  He had been in a coma for days.  As the record played he said, “Joyful and triumphant.”  I said, “Oh!  John Paul, where have you been?”  He said, “I have been in my own fair home and you weren’t there.”

From that time on he seemed to improve, could set up and be in a walker that had a seat.

One Sunday morning, as Paul [her husband] was preparing for church, John Paul asked, “Where is my Daddy.”  Paul went to him so he would know his Daddy was there.

When Paul returned from church he saw something was wrong.  I rushed to him and spoke his name.  He heard me for he said, “Here,” and he was gone.  God took him from our care.

After this I wanted more than ever to be ready for heaven.  We had written on his grave stone—Heaven is nearer since he entered there.

I prayed and read the Bible more seeking more of God.  Paul was working.  Judy [my mom, and her oldest and now only child] was in first grade so I had time alone.  In searching I learned that the Holy Spirit was the gift of God to believers.  All I needed to do was to accept the gift holiness [perfection/maturity].  As I believed that instant I felt a gentle warming of my body from the top of my head to the bottom of my feet and I knew that the Holy Spirit had entered my life.  [On the phone she told me that had happened while she was washing the windows.]

Were there any changes?  Only that I knew I was renewed in spirit and there was a desire to serve and labor for the Lord.  The church gave us plenty to do.

I know that this gift of the Holy Spirit doesn’t come in such feeling to every one.  I remember asking my mother how she knew she was sanctified.  She said it was just the knowledge that she was committed completely to the Lord [perfection/maturity]…

Mary White

Two things I think worth noticing in this letter are that she considered the gift of maturity, complete commitment to the Lord, a gift that comes from the Holy Spirit.  The second is that this gift came during a time of intense trial, trouble, and suffering.  Maturity is a gift, and according to James, this gift often comes in times of trouble.

Second, maturity is a completeness that lacks nothing.  James says, “And let endurance have its full [teleios] effect, so that you may be mature [teleios] and complete, lacking in nothing” (1:4, NRSV).  I mentioned earlier that I went on a ten-day sailing trip with a friend from Northern Michigan to upstate New York.  This trip was filled with all kinds of clouds, literally.  We began in Lake Michigan and then sailed down Lake Huron into Lake St. Clair.  From there we sailed east through Lake Erie.  We by-passed Niagara Falls by way of the Welland Canal.  We finished our trip in Lake Ontario.  By the end of those ten days and the troubles we had encountered, we were more prepared to meet the same troubles again.  I don’t know that I was out long enough and encountered so many troubles that I am yet to the point of lacking nothing when it comes to sailing (in fact, I know that I am not because the next summer I ran another friend’s sailboat aground!), but I am a more “mature,” more “perfect” sailor than I was when I began.  Perfect maturity is a completeness that lacks nothing.  Growing in maturity is a process of growing in that direction.

Third, maturity perseveres in doing good.  James says, “But those who look into the perfect [teleios] law, the law of liberty, and persevere, being not hearers who forget but doers who act—they will be blessed in their doing” (1:25, NRSV).  In other words, you may not feel like doing good, but as you grow in maturity you no longer are controlled by your feelings.  Maturity is knowing the good that needs to be done and doing it no matter what you feel like doing.  When you do what is good even when you don’t feel like it, when you persevere, you receive a blessing.  How many of you have ever come to church when you didn’t feel like it and left glad that you came?  One time I was planning a hike with a friend on the John Muir trail in Yosemite.  We were going to hike 55 miles over five days.  One of those days included sixteen miles and 2500 feet of elevation.  Did I mention that my friend is also an Ironman?  Yes, he swam 2.4 miles, rode 112 miles on his bike, and ran a 26 mile marathon all in one day.  You know what I had to do to be ready for this trip?  Train.  Hard!  When I began I could barely go ten minutes on a Stairmaster.  By the time I was done I could easily stay on the Stairmaster for an hour or more.   I did not particularly feel like or want or enjoy training almost every day for six months for that hike, but when I finally hit the trail, I was more prepared for a hike than I had ever been.  The best part about it was that I seriously enjoyed the hiking.  Yes, I was sore at the end of every day, but by the morning I had completely recuperated.  I persevered in training and received the blessing of the joy of the trail, the joy of being outside.  Maturity perseveres in doing good no matter what you feel like.

Fourth, it is worth pointing out one thing that maturity is not.  It is not absolute perfection where you never make mistakes.  James says, “All of us make many mistakes. Anyone who makes no mistakes in speaking is perfect [teleios], able to keep the whole body in check with a bridle” (3:2, NRSV).  There is a tension, I think, in this verse.  On the one hand James says that making no mistakes in speaking is perfection, but this comes on the heels of him having just said that all of us make many mistakes!  So which is it?  Mistakes or no mistakes? I think what he’s saying is that we all make mistakes, and we can grow in making fewer and fewer mistakes with our tongues.  When I first talked to my grandmother on the phone about perfection and maturity, I asked her if she ever made mistakes after she had received this gift of the Holy Spirit of complete devotion to the Lord.  She said that she certainly did make mistakes, and that she had to ask for forgiveness for them all.  The difference seemed to be that she did not intentionally seek to disobey God or hurt others, but she still made mistakes.

Maturity for James is a gift of God that brings one to a place of maturity by way of endurance through trials and trouble so that one perseveres in the good works of loving one’s neighbor as oneself.

Perhaps this morning, you’re saying to me, “Tom, I get it.  I see that clouds make the sunset.  The troubles in our lives are like clouds upon which the sun of God’s grace can shine and create character.  Let me tell you though.  I’ve go so much trouble that the sky of my life is entirely overcast.  The light of the sun can’t even shine through.  God has forgotten me.”

I agree.  Sometimes there are so many troubles in our lives that we can’t see any of God’s grace.  Sometimes it really looks like God has forgotten us, but did you know that when the sky is entirely overcast, that there is a sunset on the other side, above the clouds?  You may not be able to see it, but from another perspective, from God’s perspective, something amazing is happening.  The clouds make the sunset, and occasionally only God can see it.

Sunset Above the Clouds

O merciful Father, who has taught us in your holy Word that you do not willingly afflict or grieve the children of humanity: Look with pity upon the sorrows of your servants for whom our prayers are offered.  Remember us, O Lord, in mercy , nourish our souls with patience, comfort us with a sense of your goodness, lift up your countenance upon us, and give us peace, through Jesus Christ our Lord.  Amen. (Book of Common Prayer)

Friendship with Community

Friendship with Community

Friendship with Community: A Series in the Book of James
Sycamore Creek Church
James 1:9-11 & 27
Tom Arthur
May 16, 2010

Peace, friends!

What is of lasting significance in your life? And what kinds of things tend to clutter that out? Today we’re continuing in a series on friendship. Our guide for the series is James, the brother of Jesus. James writes a letter that gives very practical guidance to those who would seek to follow Jesus. He also answers this question about lasting significance. Let’s see what he has to say.

James 1:9-11 & 27 (NLT)

9 Christians who are poor should be glad, for God has honored them. 10 And those who are rich should be glad, for God has humbled them. They will fade away like a flower in the field. 11 The hot sun rises and dries up the grass; the flower withers, and its beauty fades away. So also, wealthy people will fade away with all of their achievements…27 Pure and lasting religion in the sight of God our Father means that we must care for orphans and widows in their troubles, and refuse to let the world corrupt us.

James is pretty clear about what exactly is of lasting significance and what gets in the way of it. Friendships within community are lasting. Then there’s a whole lot of other stuff that gets in the way. He adds a little later:

Look here, you people who say, “Today or tomorrow we are going to a certain town and will stay there a year. We will do business there and make a profit.” How do you know what will happen tomorrow? For your life is like the morning fog — it’s here a little while, then it’s gone.
(James 4:13-14, NLT).

James isn’t so big on the clutter of things like money and profit. He reminds his readers that these things are like fog. In the movie Australia Nicole Kidman plays a wealthy wife going to visit her husband’s outback ranch. She flies into Australia and meets the man who is going to drive her to the ranch. His name is Drover. She’s got more luggage and stuff than anyone really needs in the outback. Drover piles it onto his truck and they begin their long journey through the outback. During the trip they have the following conversation:

Drover: I’m a driver. Right? I move the cattle from A to B. Alright, I work on commission. No man hires me and no man fires me. Everything I own I can fit in my saddlebag which is why I like it.
Lady Ashley: Yes, well, it’s all very outback adventure, isn’t it?
Drover: I’m not saying it’s for everyone.
Lady Ashley: No, definitely not for everyone.
Drover: Most people like to own things. You know land, luggage, other people. Makes them feel secure. But all that can be taken away. And in the end, the only thing you really own is your story. Just trying to live a good one.
Lady Ashley: Yes, yes. An adventure story. Mmm. You sound just like my husband.
Lady Ashley is more interested in stuff at this point than where the story of her life is going. The story of her friendships seems cluttered out by the stuff that she’s carrying along with her.

James makes it very clear that stuff and money aren’t of lasting significance. Back in the passage we began with he says: “The hot sun rises and dries up the grass; the flower withers, and its beauty fades away. So also, wealthy people will fade away with all of their achievements” (James 1:11, NLT). How much money disappeared overnight in each of the various economic bubbles over the last several decades? $5,000,000,000,000 (five trillion) was lost in the dot com bubble (http://www.fsteurope.com/news/when-the-bubble-burst/). How about the housing bubble? The economic impact is still being explored and no one is quite sure, but what we do know is that money was here one day and gone the next.

James is talking about wealthy people, but I wonder if we might not also speak about wealthy churches. This is a phenomenon I think goes unnoticed most of the time. What is of lasting significance for wealthy churches? What clutters that out? I’d like to suggest that it is friendship with community that is of lasting significance for all churches. How are we using our money both individually and corporately? Are we using our money to bless or oppress? Once again, James focuses on money saying, “For listen! Hear the cries of the field workers whom you have cheated of their pay. The wages you held back cry out against you. The cries of the reapers have reached the ears of the Lord Almighty” (Text: James 5:4, NLT).

Anybody holding back wages from anyone? It’s easy to let ourselves off the hook on this one, but consider the way that we spend our money. Our culture has a fascination, an obsession, with buying everything as cheaply as possible. This is one reason we love big box stores like Meijer, Walmart, Target, Kmart, and so on. When you go to a smaller store you pay more. So we tend to choose the bigger stores so we can save some money, but do you ever think about how the people who are working there are getting paid? One of the reasons those stores are able to sell things so inexpensively is because they’re rarely paying a living wage to their workers. Our desire to buy cheap often has a dark side: withholding good wages from those who work at these stores.

Several years ago a journalist named Barbara Ehrenreich attempted to live on the minimum wage and found it nearly impossible. She wrote about her experience in the book, Nickel and Dimed. An interesting musical documentary highlighted this experience in a unique way. In this documentary a banker notices for the first time all the people who work at the places where he shops. He notices how little they get paid for the work that they do. The scene can be seen here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDgFiW2xtf0.

One way to reflect on this is to consider how much you tip. Once upon a time back in the good ole days a young boy went in to a diner to order some ice cream. The waitress came to the table and asked him what he wanted. He asked how much an ice cream sundae cost. She said it cost 50 cents. He looked at the change he had in his hand and counted it. The waitress got a little impatient as he counted. She could see people lining up at the door. Finally the boy asked how much plain ice cream was. She said that plain ice cream costs 35 cents. He said that he’d like the plain ice cream, so she went and got the ice cream for him. After he ate it and paid, the waitress came back to the table and was surprised to find laying on it two nickels and five pennies. The boy had enough for the ice cream sundae but not enough for the ice cream sundae and a generous (40%!) tip.

Too often we nickel and dime those who serve us rather than giving them a generous full wage. We clutter out friendship with the community so that we can simply have more stuff.

So what if we use our money to bless rather than oppress? What would that look like? James says, “Pure and lasting religion in the sight of God our Father means that we must care for orphans and widows in their troubles, and refuse to let the world corrupt us” (James 1:27, NLT). To take care of the vulnerable in our community, to be friends with them is what it means to use our money to bless rather than oppress.

But even here in our own churches we sometimes fall back into the trap of oppressing rather than blessing. James says, “Suppose you see a brother or sister who needs food or clothing, and you say, “Well, good-bye and God bless you; stay warm and eat well” — but then you don’t give that person any food or clothing. What good does that do?” (James 2:15-16, NLT). Notice that James is talking about “brothers” and “sisters.” That is code language for fellow Christians, those who worship together. Surely we never do this. Or do we?

Dotty and I were meeting for lunch a couple of weeks ago and reflecting together on what she does each week. If you’re in the first service you may not even know this, but Dotty picks up women from the Rescue Mission women’s shelter every Sunday and brings them to worship with her. Sometimes she’s got as many as five or six women with her. Because the shelter isn’t open again until later in the afternoon she has to drop them off somewhere after church is over. She would like to give them a meal of some sort, and sometimes she does, but she doesn’t have the money to always do this. It struck us both that what was happening here was that we were saying to these women in worship, “God bless you”, and then dropping them off and saying, “Stay warm and eat well”! What would it look like if different members of our church took these women out to eat after church every Sunday? What would it look like if members of our church invited these women to their homes for a meal after church on Sunday? Now we’re talking about real blessing and not just talk. Now we’re talking about real friendship with the community, and we don’t even have to go outside our church to find it!

James reminds us of Jesus quoting the book of Leviticus when James says, “Yes indeed, it is good when you truly obey our Lord’s royal command found in the Scriptures: “Love your neighbor as yourself” (James 2:8, NLT). What if we all picked someone up for church who didn’t have a car and then had them over for lunch? Then we’d say “God Bless” and we’d be loving our neighbor too.

In essence, I think that what James is teaching us is that friendship with the community is friendship with God. Friendship with the vulnerable especially, the orphans and the widows and their modern day counterparts, is friendship with God. Your spiritual growth, your worship of God, and your friendship with God is intimately tied to the way that you spend your money to care for the vulnerable and have friendship with the community. Let’s make that all corporate too. Our spiritual growth as a church, our worship of God, and our friendship with God is intimately tied to the way that we spend our money to care for the vulnerable and have friendship with the community.

The Shepherd of Hermas, a very early second century Christian guidebook, sums this all up well saying, “Instead of fields, buy souls that are in trouble, according to your ability. Look after widows and orphans. Do not neglect them. Spend your riches on these kinds of fields and houses.” In other words, have friendship with the community so that you can have friendship with God.